Best Friends -- Female Edition

My best friend came to visit me this summer.  She was able to stay about a month before returning to Canada.  During her visit, I was able to take some days off.  But I also had to work part of the time.  So we didn’t get to spend as much time together as we would have liked.  Still, we had a good time and look forward to more vacations together.  Maybe even as soon as next year.

From the time we’re young boys and girls, we make friends.  Whether through daycare or school or church or social activities like sports, they’re a part of our lives.  Some we stay in contact with into adulthood.  Others we lose track of, through graduation or moving or even a loss of a particular interest.  As we grow up and move on, we make new friends.  The work we choose leads to new people and our attitudes and interests change.  We continue with different levels of friendship, from a casual acquaintance to close partnership.  There are even friendships that lead to lifelong partnerships, whether romantic or business or just looking out for each other.

I’m very lucky to have a best friend.  We met online, through common interests our library jobs (we're both catalogers) and movies and TV.  Our friendship has continued for over 15 years, which is a pretty good record.  She’s the girlfriend I wish I’d had in high school.

From the beginning of movies and television, the subject of female friendship has been explored.  Not always, however, to great effect.  Most often it was depicted as a rivalry, whether for a man or social standing or both.  The idea that women could be best friends and supportive of each other is rather new.  And for the most part, Hollywood is doing a pretty good job of it.





Sometime soon I’ll write a blog about male friendship in movies and television.  I’m already mentally composing a list – and I promise they won’t all be cop-buddy films.  Any suggestions?  Or something I should have added to the female list?  Please let me know.


Wow! You've certainly

Wow! You've certainly rounded up an impressive array of titles, and I particularly approve Sex and the City, which, whatever its title implies, is above all else a valentine to New York and to women friends. I also like Nicole Holofcener's ensemble pieces, notably Walking and Talking, which explores friendship in transition, and Friends with Money. There's no Kate and Allie in the library's collection, but that series deserves to be remembered for its funny and poignant writing, and for being a female-centered show in a time of transition. I remember Wendy Wasserstein's Uncommon Women and Others made a huge impression on me when I saw it on public TV back in the day. And to round out an eclectic lis there, I'd offer a mention to Enchanted April, The Jane Austen Book Club, Waitress, and especially Antonia and Jane, another rarity. That last is more about frenemies than best friends, but boy, is it hilarious...and moving.

I'm quite embarrassed that I

I'm quite embarrassed that I forgot to include Enchanted April. It truly is one of my favorite movies, especially in the way that female friendship is portrayed. I've not seen the other movies that you mentioned, but they do sound quite intriguing. I must make room for them on my "to watch" list, especially Friends with Money, The Jane Austen Book Club, and Waitress.

Thanks so much for writing!